5 Ways to Not Lose your Mind this Holiday Season
Let’s face it- the holidays can bring tremendous amounts of joy. They can be filled with merriment, good cheer, laughter and great cocktails but they can also be chock full of stress, familial discourse, depleted bank accounts and hangovers. So how do you stay sane and spiritually grounded during a time of year that can be filled with exhaustion and anxiety? I can’t claim to have all of the answers but I can share with you some tips that have helped me along the path to Holiday Enlightenment.
1)Just Say No. This slogan is not just for drugs, my friends. Declining invitations during the holidays can help keep you afloat. It’s so easy for us to succumb to the pressures of holiday parties and yankee swaps but at a certain point you just have to say NO. I used to be the gal who would try and squeeze in multiple social gatherings, parties and events all in one day and realized over time that it left little room for enjoyment. I was always staring at the clock, anticipating the next event and in turn, I was never allowing myself to be fully present. What’s the point of taking time to spend with your loved ones if you don’t truly enjoy it while it’s happening? Take my advice...really think about which events will bring joy and meaning and commit to those and for everything else- just say no. Don’t make excuses. Just say “no thanks”.
2)Make a budget. This may sound like weird spiritual advice but it’s an important one. So many times, we lose sight of the meaning of the holidays by going bananas with shopping. The holidays become more about getting our loved ones the latest and greatest gifts and seeking out the best Black Friday deals than it is about creating lasting memories and taking time to appreciate our blessings. Creating a budget (and actually sticking to it) can be such a useful tool to stay centered. In the Yoga Sutras, they speak a lot to the act of non-attachment and even go so far as to say that gifts are a way of creating guilt and unevenness in relationships. Once you’re the recipient of a material gift, there is subconscious pressure to reciprocate and sometimes that can bring unbalance to our dynamics. How about instead of exchanging gifts you ask your girlfriends to go out to dinner or get a massage or think about discussing with family members ahead of time what you’d like to do about exchanging gifts? Try attaching a dollar amount to your gift giving by suggesting you all spend X amount of dollars, that way there are no hard feelings if someone spent more than the other. Side note- what the hell is the point of exchanging gift cards? Why not just each keep the $50 and do what you’d like with it? But I digress…
3)Do You. I hear so many people talking about how they don’t have time for themselves during the holidays and trust me, I get it. However, if there was ever a time to make yourself a priority, it’s over the holiday season. Do the things that bring grounding and centering. Take a yoga class, spend five minutes of your morning in quiet meditation, go for a walk with your pup, call a friend for a glass of wine, read a book...do you. It’s not selfish or greedy to take a few minutes to bring yourself back home.
4)SEX. Just making sure you were still paying attention. You know, being present and all that. But hey, while we’re at it, why not stay warm this winter?
5)Pass the eggnog and let go of the guilt. We all start to feel it this time of year- maybe your pants seem a bit tighter because of the office baked goods and the endless amounts of sweets given as gifts. I encourage you to enjoy yourself, find balance and moderation and let go of the guilt and shame associated with pleasure. I mean, sure, eating an entire fruitcake and washing it down with a liter of vodka is cause for concern but gathering with friends and family and indulging a little is part of the fun. Don’t allow yourself to go down the path of giving into cravings mindlessly but also don’t be afraid to let your hair down, enjoy a glass of wine, honor your body and enjoy the freaking ride!
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