Sometimes seemingly out of nowhere does the universe supply us with extreme wake up calls. You’re driving in the car with screaming kids, and you lose control of your emotions, allowing your stress to erupt on your children. You feel overwhelmingly over-worked and have committed time to everyone but yourself. You’re unhappy in your relationships, your networks, or even your job. You feel like you are lacking purpose and intention in your life. At some point your batteries will run out, the fuse will blow and your emotions will short-circuit, a.k.a. a big huge cosmic 2/4 will come and knock you flat on your ass.
Jealousy, Anger, Frustration, Confusion, Sadness, Depression, Revengefulness…the list can go on. These feelings simply put...are flat out painful. And often during a painful or confusing time, especially when you are feeling lost or uncertain it’s because something needs to change. And when we choose not to change it for ourselves, we get a big “WACK” on the head to remind us. Pain allows us to move forward in ways that are always in due time. The pain acts as the catalyst, the timing point of climactic upheaval that sometimes un-willingly sets us forward onto a new path.
Learn to understand that pain is a gift:
Yes pain sucks, almost as bad as when your bladder wakes you up to pee when you are all warm and snuggled in bed. But the truth is that without it, humans tend to coast liberally in the comfort of something they know rather than something they don’t know. The gift (and quickest way to moving forward) lies in understanding that pain and confusion allows us to re-evaluate our lives.
It didn’t happen overnight
Consider the world we live in and the choices we make are like our own personal catalog. We choose our path, and the circumstances that occur around us. Yes, the faster we learn to take responsibility for our own lives, the quicker we can learn to accept why things are the way they are. The choices we make (whether hastily or thought out) create the lives we live in today. Just as if you were make the world’s perfect spaghetti sauce (which I feel as though mine will never match up to my Nana’s) you would add/or remove ingredients based on the taste each time, until you have mastered it to perfection. And until then, you will continue to make a mediocre sauce. The same goes for our choices. Until we add/remove things from our lives, we will continue to repeat the same patterns, over and over and over again. Remember that these choices didn’t occur one night over a martini; you made these choices based on other layered decisions, feelings, projection’s of others feelings, behaviors and circumstances. So how do you tackle it? The same way you eat an elephant, one bite at a time (I don’t know about the elephant thing it sounds gross…)
Go Get Loaded…
with Information about Yourself
Just like buying a new computer, you wouldn’t load it with out of date software. It could even potentially harm your system, right? So why would you do it to yourself?
Find an outlet that will allow you to re-evaluate your decisions and move forward in a secure direction. You will find that working through the pain is a crash course in self discovery. Install an anti-virus system on your hard-drive to combat any potential malware. Seriously though. Steer clear of the nay-sayers. They will not understand, they might even try to set you further off your path of self-discovery. And if you live with them, work with them, are friends with them, or are married to them; keep the painful process in a confidential binder, under lock and key. Once the process is complete, you will better understand how to deal with those people in your life.
Take a Class!